What women need today.
Dec 31, 2025
What are women missing today?
At the heart of it, the answer is simple and profound: self-love.
We live in a world where we women are incredibly hard on themselves. The house must look perfect, the children must be well-behaved and well-dressed, the career must be thriving, the body must look a certain way — and through all of this, an inner critic never stops whispering that we are not enough.
We internalize impossible standards, trying to be perfect in every direction at once.
Somewhere, this pattern didn’t start with us. We learned it by watching our mothers.
Many of our mothers were not accepted for who they were. They did not receive unconditional love, so they could not give it freely — not even to themselves, and not always to us. And so, without knowing it, we inherited their self-neglect, their pressure, and their unspoken pain.
To this, we add the generational anger against patriarchy, held quietly in our bodies. We carry the trauma of the women who came before us in our wombs — their exhaustion, their suppression, their longing to be free.
This ancestral burden shows up in many ways:
- difficulty conceiving
- menstrual and hormonal imbalances
- disconnection from mother consciousness
- seeing other women as competition instead of community
- loneliness, ungroundedness, and fear
- challenges fully connecting with our own children
- increased anger, anxiety, or emotional reactivity
- leaning into masculine energy just to survive
- blocking ourselves from experiencing deep love
And when we don’t know how to love ourselves, we inevitably pass that pattern down to our children. So the question becomes:
What do we do now?
How do we break the cycle?
A time of releaseā— stepping out of ancestral trauma
This moment in history is not accidental. Spiritually, it is an opportune time to stop the cycle of hate, anger, and resentment we carry from our ancestors so our future generations can live differently.
This is Kali Yuga — the time of Kali — a period meant for releasing everything that no longer serves us.
And one of the heaviest things we carry is the collective anger that says, “Men wronged us.”
As long as we stay rooted in that identity, we remain victims, and victims are always disconnected from their power.
We must remember:
We are Shakti.
We are the power of the Goddess.
The divine feminine is in us — wise, intuitive, nurturing, and fierce when needed. When we step into our feminine essence, we naturally guide and elevate the divine masculine rather than fighting it. The world does not need more hate; it needs more love. But we cannot offer love to others without first cultivating it within ourselves.
This is the teaching of the times.
Many women stay trapped in narcissistic or unhealthy relationships not because they lack strength — but because they lack self-love. When you don’t know your own worth, you tolerate what hurts you.
So where do we begin?
First step : Start loving yourself
Self-love is not a hashtag.
It is a practice of treating yourself like a precious, irreplaceable being.
It begins with simple, powerful choices:
1. Learn to say ‘no’ lovingly
Honor your boundaries. If something doesn’t feel right, your “no” is sacred. Saying no doesn’t have to be harsh. It can be said with love. For eg. Thanks for thinking of me. I would have loved to attend your event however I really feel tired right now and want to honor my body.
2. Connect With the Moon
The moon reflects the cyclical nature of the feminine. Its phases help you reconnect with softness, intuition, and inner rhythm. One simple way to do this is consciously look out for the moon and close your eyes and feel the moon beams bless you.
3. Gather with other women
Not in anger, protest, or trauma-bonding — but in connection, compassion, and shared truth.
When women gather in love, healing accelerates. Look up women’s circles near you or retreats and sign up for them. You never know what breakthroughs you can have when you gather with like minded women!
4. Heal your inner child
Childhood wounds often run the programs that control our adult lives. Inner child work softens these patterns so you can relate differently to yourself and others. Find practitioners near you who help you do inner work and look within for patterns.
5. Try ThetaHealing®
A powerful way to release the “4 Rs”:resentments, regrets, rejections, and feelings of revenge.
Letting go frees not just the mind but also the womb — the seat of feminine energy.
6. Embrace the beauty of the feminine
- Notice beauty in feminine forms everywhere.
- Play your favorite music and allow it to move your body.
- Enjoy flowers in every way.
- Wear softer, flowing clothes.
- Receive compliments and gifts gracefully.
Let the essence of the feminine seep gently back into your life.
7. Heal your relationship with your mother
If that relationship feels distant or painful, tools like ThetaHealing® can help release past wounds. Forgiveness brings you back into alignment with mother consciousness — the energy of nourishment and unconditional love.
What happens when you begin to heal.
When you release trauma and begin loving yourself, your entire being changes.
- Your creativity blooms because your energy is no longer trapped in pain.
- You soften, channeling the divine feminine with grace.
- You become more present, loving, and forgiving.
- A quiet calm wraps around you like a sacred aura.
- You feel connected to the divine at all times, so loneliness dissolves.
- And without even trying, you give others permission to love themselves.
You become a living example of what healing looks like. A reminder to the world that women were never meant to be hard, exhausted, or disconnected.
We were meant to be powerful — but in a way that is rooted in softness, intuition, creativity, and love.
And when women rise in this way, entire generations rise with us.
Anumeha Gupta is an Ayurvedic Wellness Counselor, ThetaHealing® Practitioner, and founder of Ayuwise Ayurvedic Counseling in the San Francisco Bay Area.
Through her integrative approach she helps individuals release hidden emotional trauma, calm anxiety, and be the person they want to be. She organizes retreats to help women deepen their connection with the Divine Feminine. You can visit this page to learn about them: https://www.ayuwise.com/retreat-invite
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